Is the system failing our kids? by Carol Wood
IS THE SYSTEM FAILING OUR KIDS?
This article was reproduced by kind permission of Carol Wood of Rainbow Planet Connection.
The following article is based totally on my own feelings and observations as a parent, school counsellor and teacher.
I would like to say before I begin that most teachers and educators are doing the best job that they can given the resources they have available and the directives they have been given. Many teachers went into their job with a passion to make a difference and to really help children to be all that they can. Unfortunately the system doesn't necessarily allow this process to be effective.
Many parents and teachers are becoming increasingly disillusioned and frustrated with a system that they believe is failing their children. They are concerned about the environment that they are exposing their children to.
HOME SCHOOLING? IS IT THE ANSWER?
More and more parents are choosing Home Schooling as a way of providing for their children what the schools are failing to do. They are not prepared to send their children to regular schools because of the pervasive atmosphere of bullying and poor social interaction that occurs in many schools. I am not blaming the schools or the teachers here, just stating what appears to be happening out there.
Is home schooling really the answer to a problem which is pervasive throughout society? Keeping kids at home isolates them from the
'real world'and from social interaction with others. It may even make them less resilient. However, it may also be a better choice than exposing them to the bullying, teasing, put downs and other detrimental behaviours that can have a devastating effect on a child's self –esteem.
The school curriculum is another issue! Are schools teaching children what they really need to learn to lead a fulfilling life and to express their talents and potential.
THE JUNGLE OUT THERE!
Many kids start off at school or child–care feeling okay and having a reasonably healthy self-esteem but before long they learn that they need to protect themselves from others hurtful comments and blaming behaviours. So often kids end up following the old saying 'If you can't beat 'em join 'em!' They end up playing the same game as the others in order to survive in the jungle of the school and playground.
We as parents are reluctant to send our children into the school battleground, where sensitive children are exposed to emotional hurts and pains and often become victims of bullying. But what are the alternatives?
What about the bullies themselves? What's going on inside them?
No one needs to put anyone else down unless they are feeling hurt and insecure inside. Bullies want to steal other people's energy because they need to prop themselves up. They want to make others feel smaller and less than so that they can feel bigger and greater than. It's all about ego, power and control.
Many of these kids feel that they need to control their external environment in order to feel safe inside and feel that their world is okay. They are often only able to keep so called 'friends' because the other children are scared of them!
So many of our children are sensitive and feel insecure inside! Well why wouldn't they in a world that values external things like looking good, using materialistic possessions as a gauge for self –worth, and whether or not you are able to afford brand name clothes!
It's all about external appearances and a looking good on the surface! What about underneath!!??
We, as a human race have disconnected from our sensitive, creative, emotional, passionate and joyful nature, our natural state of being!
It's not 'cool' to be friendly and loving in the schoolyard. It's more 'cool' to be cool and aloof. It's more 'cool' to put others down to remain popular and accepted.
How much time and energy is spent on helping kids to value themselves and focus on their own individual gifts and talents without encouraging them to compete with others?
A TEENAGER'S COMMENTS
The following is an excerpt from a piece of writing from a 14 year old teenager who had experienced bullying and victimization at school for many years because she was different! An Indigo child!
'For example, when someone decides to tease someone else, they just think it's funny without considering the other person's feeling. Everyone does this to each other, even best friends, but usually as a joke. Although, sometimes they do it to look cool in front of other people, by sacrificing their friend's dignity. But I donít understand what's so cool about teasing someone. My god, all the world's problems are so complicated and so many it would take me years to discuss them all.'
WHAT'S HAPPENING TO PARENT'S INFLUENCE ON THEIR CHILDREN?
With the pressure of fast food, designer labels, depressing music, violent computer games to name a few factors that we are feeding our kids, is it any wonder that they are exhibiting anti–social behaviours.
What influence do you have on your own children anymore? Do you feel it all being taken away from you by advertising and computer games and fast food restaurants? Are you allowing it?
But what are the alternatives? Can we make a stand together to change the experiences that our children face at school or child–care?
Who are we relying on to make the changes?
Are we allowing the politicians or TV presenters too much influence?
Do we need to take more responsibility ourselves?
WHAT CAN WE DO?
We see the need to support teachers, parents and other children's caregivers so that they can work more effectively with today's children. We see the need to help them to put effective methods and systems in place that work for them and the 'New Children',
the Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow Children.
Many people, including us at the Rainbow Planet Connection are developing training programs and resources to support others to support children.
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Written by Carol Wood From the Rainbow Planet Connection–offering children's developmental programs and resources.
Carol was born in the UK. She has studied Counselling and Child Psychology at the University of Queensland, Australia and has been working as a School Counsellor for 20 years, helping Children and Families. She is currently developing resources and offering training programs, to help support teachers, parents and other caregivers in raising emotionally healthy children